Your goals are not going to work if you don’t change this

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Your goals are not going to work if you don’t change this

Have you ever had a time when you set New Year’s resolutions and have all the plans on paper and yet didn’t seem to make any progress?

Yes. Most of us set new goals every New Year that get us really excited. Unfortunately, that excitement only lasts until the end of the first week of January.

Why is that?

Not many people know that changing your goals would also mean that you will have to change one very important aspect of your life: THE PEOPLE THAT YOU SPEND MOST OF YOUR TIME WITH.

Setting new goals without changing this is pretty much like spray painting your car with a new colour without replacing the engine that isn’t working.

It doesn’t sound right. But that is exactly what most people are doing with their lives.

Most people are fine with sticking to their group of friends who are fun and cool to be around with but won’t help them get anywhere in life.

In other words, they compromise their success with the comfort of being able to fit in and be normal.

But that doesn’t mean that you will have to unfriend or block them on Facebook. It just means that you’ll need to spend less time with them and instead spend more time with those who are already where you want to be.

If you want to become a best-selling author, you’re not going to hang around people who constantly tell you that you aren’t a good writer and ironically aren’t writers themselves. You’re going to find out who topped the Popular bookstore charts this month, contact them and make friends with them.

If you want to become a trainer, then hang around successful trainers.

It is as simple as that. But why is it that not many people are willing to implement this?

Because hanging out with people who are more successful than you makes most people uncomfortable. When you try to stand out from your usual group of friends, you’ll be called names and most people can’t even handle that.

Most people want to fit in. That is what they want.

But if you really want to reach your goals and realize your dreams, trying to fit in to your old group of friends isn’t going to cut it.

Despite not being in my 30s yet, I have replaced my friends who constantly parties and shop till they drop with friends who are millionaires, best-selling authors and successful speakers.

I will not be where I am if I were to stick to my old group of friends who lives by the mantra: “We are still young. Party first, work should come later”.

I am far from being a talented speaker nor am I born an extrovert. But I have been given the opportunity to speak to thousands in Singapore and Malaysia just because I understand that I will become who I spend most of my time with.

Most importantly, I made that decision to change. It was not easy, but it was worth it.

Take a moment to reflect. Who are the 5 people that you spend most of your time with. Is it your colleagues? Friends? Relatives?

Do they inspire you? Are they where you want to be in 5 years’ time? Do they support you?

If your answer is NO to any of these questions, then some things have got to change because this might be the only reason that is holding you back from leaving your legacy.

Yes it might be uncomfortable at first. But trust me on this. It will be a decision you’ll thank yourself for in the future.

Do yourself a favour this time. Spend time with those who can help you achieve your dreams. It will be a decision that you will never regret.

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Author: Karen Foo (Motivational speaker and award-winning Forex trader)